Love

My Love Life . . .

     My boyfriend's name is Jerence Pon Go, 21, and a junior in John Jay University in New York. He plans to be a lawyer in the future. He is Chinese born in the Philippines just like me and speaks great Chinese. He has 2 older sisters, named JAMELYN and Jacquelyn Go.

     Jerence (Honey as I would call him) is a wonderful person. Besides being the cutest person in my eyes, he's sweet, considerate, patient, thoughtful, funny, hardworking, intelligent, sentimental, and in one word: perfect. Oh, of course he has his flaws but his strengths definitely outweighs all his weaknesses. Not only that, Jerence is a great son, a wonderful brother, and a good friend.

     The first day we met was at West Orange Evangelical Church in New Jersey on March 22, 1998. He came up to me and said a polite "hello". The first thing I noticed about him was his smile. I thought it was adorable. But, he was kind of shy and timid the first day. When we met 2 weeks later on Easter Sunday, April 11, 1998, we hit it off right away. I liked everything about him: the way he made me laugh, his soft voice, his gentleness..basically everything. I was really amazed at how he was so patient with kids: he absolutely adores children especially my brother. He played around with Wesley and when his shoelace was untied, Jerence would stoop down to tie it for him. Somehow, I was attracted to that. I love it when someone likes my brother. Of course, I am the big sister. Nevertheless, from that time on, my life was never the same again.

     Jerence started to come visit me more and more despite the long drive from his house to mine. When I needed to go to the doctor, he would skip his class to take me. He also manages to call me almost every day not once regretting how high his phone bill could go. As he always says, he just wants to "hear" my voice. Jerence also cooked for me (believe me, he is quite a good cook). How many guys out there would cook for a girl? Not many, I know.

     Many rumors had spread about Jerence being a "player" and many feared that he would hurt me. At one point, I started to get scared as well. Mistrust was starting to build up. However, Jerence and I decided to never let that affect our friendship. We knew that we couldn't let something so special, to just fade away.

     For a while after we met, family problems started to come about. Yet, he never backed off or was afraid, like many people out there. Instead, he continued to give me his support and care. Jerence wrote me letters constantly and gave me thoughtful POEMS and cute gifts to cheer me up. He helped me to cope with all the problems and showered me with so much love. I became more inspired and motivated because of him. Not only that, many people were able to sense a rare twinkle in my eyes when his name was mentioned: for the first time in so many years, I actually felt so happy.

     Between Jerence and I, it wasn't love at first sight (we don't believe much in that…). But this love definitely developed gradually amidst all the problems we had. I don't know precisely when I started to love him. But I know that at one point, I had started to think of him more and wanted to be with him. I also felt something I never felt before about anyone in my life. It was something so deep and intense that up until now, I can't fully describe. We started to go out on October 10, 1998 on my birthday. Up until now, despite the distance, we have managed to hold on to our relationship.

     Many people had asked me why I love Jerence so much. Somehow, there isn't an exact reason. All I know is that I do love him with all my heart, for there is no one else that I can imagine being forever with. I have liked many people throughout my life but I feel that this is actually the first time that I actually truly loved. My love for him grows every day and our bond has only gotten much stronger than ever before. Jerence is not only my boyfriend, but also a bestfriend, a soulmate, and my DESTINY.